If you’re not failing, you’re not learning

If you’re not failing, you’re not learning.
If you’re not learning, you’re not growing.
If you’re not growing, you’re not living.
Living without failing is failing to live.
(Mark Manson)
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Nothing new but well phrased!
And as always with this kind of platitudinal advice, it’s only half true.

You don't always need to fail yourself to learn.
You can also learn by the failures of OTHERS (don't worry it's a sunk cost anyway and your failures will -hopefully- serve others as well).

Or you learn by INSIGHT. And you should, cause it's less painful for you and/or others.

You cannot avoid any mistakes but you can avoid avoidable mistakes and there are plenty of them. Once failures occur, of course you reframe that as learning (and you actually DO try to learn from it).

As we are all unique and have different paths, it's unlikely that others will do all "your failures" before YOU do it so that you can learn from it.

Same for insights. Some insights only unlock at certain awareness levels you’re not at yet (and probably need a failing experience to be reached).

A variation of all that is experiencing "pain". The mystic "Meister Eckhart" (from which Eckhart Tolle borrowed his surname) allegedly said "Pain is the fastest way to self-realization". Well, he said it's the fastest, and even if that's true he didn't say it's the BEST or the WISEST.

I'm not a big fan of all this idealization of failure and pain. If it happens (and it will) I FACE, ACCEPT and UTILIZE it the best I can (and often I'm not terribly good at it). But it’s definitely not my north star either